I said what I meant and I meant what I said and I tried not to say it mean but I said it damned firmly.
And I feel guilty because she's sick and I have this totally unrealistic expectation of MYSELF that I should just gently point out her errors and move along.
I came home to find that she took down the xmas tree after I said that it would stay up until I wanted it down. Later, while my son and I were on an errand, she made a fire (in the wood stove), we never discussed starting fires. I was upset. Furious. Boundaries have been violated, echoes of previous violations that I feel but don't remember. My rights are valid.
I am upset. I'm particularly annoyed because she plays the trump card 'I forgot'. Interesting what gets remembered, what gets forgotten.
The good thing about today is that it is over.
3 hours ago