The Alanon meeting that I attended tonight focused on Step 9 questions in one of the step books. The nature of the questions and the nature of the shares highlighted belly button gazing and mental masturbation. Most of these folks have been in 5+ years and a few 15+ years in the program and for God's sakes if you haven't gotten your amends straightened out by now, I support them putting it on the back burner. Speaking for myself, I start to smell the odor of narcissism. Did I hurt myself, did I hurt others. Who knows, there are no mistakes in God's world, what happened happened, including the amends that did or did not happen. I'm wise not to exaggerate my importance in other people's lives.
Keep a strong Step 10 in action and look back but don't stare.
My primary relationship is with my higher power, the rest of my life pales in comparison.
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