Monday, August 2, 2010

A Few Things

Those of you in Alanon (and those of you who should be!) will understand how hard it is to stand by while someone goes through their own pain. Well, to be honest, it may be more my pain than his. My son quit his job to take a landscaping job that was supposed to start this week. He hasn't heard from 'the guy'. I encouraged him to call him. He has told him that he has the job, it is certainly not too pushy to know when and where he starts.

Deep breath. I said it once and I said it kindly.

Same (only) son hasn't signed up for community college classes yet. Same son hasn't saved any money for court fines due in 4 weeks.

I have always liked the program slogan of saying it once, saying it more often is nagging. I think I said it more than once but I'm done giving advice. Consequences will come, won't be comfortable for either of us. Or, he will solve it in his own way. Either way spells a growing experience for HIM. Not really my business. My job is to love him and not demean him. That's easy enough. But without program, I'd be Jazzed with a capital J. With program, I am jazzed with a little j. Big difference.

Love to you all. When it's time to pray for others during the service, I pray for all my mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, sons and daughters. We are all connected and in this together, Blessed Be. And that is what is terrific about today.


  1. Oh boy- hands off is soooo hard sometimes!

  2. As you well know from reading my blog, I find relationships to be a mighty struggle myself. Letting people find their own way isn't a strong suit of mine. I am better than I used to be, but lately I've discovered myself once again, still allowing other people's stuff upset my stuff. Not kool! Al-Anon gave me the gift of detaching with love. I'm grateful to be reminded of the importance of this skill.

  3. Why why why do you make it so hard to reply to you! I love your comments, I want to answer you but I cant go online to blogs while I am at the office ..I reply via email .. and your email is not connected to your comments ...

    The photo of the bridge on Queens Creek isnt ominous .. its sunset and shadows lengthen .. it was the end of the day but the beginning of a SUPER weekend ...

  4. And I pray for you...and your son

    Aloha from Honolulu :)

    Comfort Spiral

  5. I like it too that what others do is none of my business. I don't nag any more.