An attitude of kindness is where I start. I have to watch my boundaries because, as I learned in Alanon, the definition of help can be control with a smile. I applaud Kathie Lynn's struggle with boundaries in figuring the extent of help that she should offer a drinking drinker.
Lois called Alanon a program of love. That love and kindness does not take inventories, hold grudges from yesterday or worry judge others. It is present and and empathic.
A quote from This Is Al-Anon goes like this . . . "'Live and let live' sets us free from the compulsion to criticize, judge, condemn, and retaliate. . . (which) can damage us far more than those against whom we use such weapons. Al-Anon helps us to learn tolerance rooted in love."
What's good about today is that I'm in a 'selfish' program. Most of the time I know the difference between taking care of myself in a healthy way and trying to take care of others vs. minding MYOB!
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